Every wedding couple definitely wants her wedding went perfectly. No wonder, many of them are so perfectionist in preparing for the happy day. There is an assumption that the prospective bride tend to be captious, it is complicated, detailed and a perfectionist when preparing for the wedding. In fact, many men who behave thus. The prospective groom is a control freak as it is often called a groomzilla. Usually a groomzilla always want to be involved in planning the wedding, starting from the concept of marriage up to a dress that will be worn the bride. He is very detail and perfectionists often make the prospective bride upset and overwhelmed. Well, how to cope with The Groomzilla ?
1. Share Your Dream Wedding
In this stage, begin to brainstorm with your partner about the concept of a dream wedding that you want since the first. Because it is still in the stage of brainstorming, do not rush to define the concept of marriage. It's good, you and a partner to listen to each other the concept of each while looking for advantages and disadvantages of each concept.
When stating the concept of the wedding of your dreams, do not be too hope that your partner will 100% agree with the idea of you yes, brides. Expectations that are too high can actually make you and your partner so bete-betean and culminate in a quarrel.
2. Compromise
Brings together the two a desire and a stack of ideas is not easy. That's why, you and your partner must start to compromise to accommodate each other's needs. Often, couples focus only on the problems they face. As a result, they forget with their ability to compromise and find a solution. In fact, the foundation of a marriage is compromise and understanding of each party. You will bring these things forever, even after the wedding party is over.
3. Make A Plan
If the concept is already completed, make a wedding plan together, starting from the theme, venue, number of guests and so on. This Plan became the benchmark and when it begins ter-distract with new ideas or when differences of opinion arise.
4. Find Out Its Strength And Share The Task
If the pair you've got great taste in music, try to trust him to handle the affairs of the entertainment. If she was an expert at affairs of the design, give it a chance to take care of the wedding decoration. By knowing the strengths and weaknesses of each, you and a partner will be getting to know each other and learn to trust each other.
5. Keep Him Updated
Groomzilla a control freak and meticulous can often be bete heavy when he not informed of the preparation of the wedding. So, do not forget to always update your partner about the progress that you guys do.
6. Appreciation
When your partner managed to do something, say thank you. Praise him when you like the idea or the results of his work. In addition to make it convenient, it can also strengthen your relationship as future husband and wife plus team work.
7. Talk Four Eyes
Many prospective bride who confide to friends or family about the groomzilla's partner. Rather than busy the story here and there, should keep it to yourselves, brides. This aims to prevent the leaking of the story to a partner who can make it bete. Try together to find a way out for all the differences of opinion that you face calm and relaxed. If your partner is too much meddling, you can rebuke him well and patiently. Do it in private, brides! Criticize him in public will only make him offended.
8. It's Marriage, Not Only The Wedding
I was so eager to achieve perfection, many couples focus on the details and forget the essence of marriage. Brides, you're preparing a lifetime marriage, not only one-day extravagant wedding reception. So, not too sweat the small stuff or the behavior of the partner that is less pleasing, yes.
Face groomzilla indeed need patience and understanding extra, brides-to-be. Certainly you should always communicate with your partner, yes. Have experience or a similar story, brides? Let's share in the column below.